Somewhere Between What Was and What’s Emerging in Me

Somewhere Between What Was and What’s Emerging in Me

Pink railing against a dark background representing the space between past and emerging self

There’s a shift happening, inside the work, inside my life, and in the space where identity starts to reorganize before it fully makes sense.

What feels most alive in my life right now is this combination of two things happening at the same time.

One is very physical, very real. It’s me building the Sovereign Standard coaching program. Writing it out. Putting pieces of it on Substack and LinkedIn. Staying focused there. Showing up consistently. Letting it take shape in real time. Reaching out to people, having conversations about it, getting feedback, introducing it into different spaces. There’s something very grounded and daily about that.

And then there’s this other side of it that feels more internal. More metaphysical. I’ve been spending more time really looking at what abundance actually is from a level of consciousness. Not just thinking about it, but meditating on it, reaffirming it, trying to access it directly. Whether someone calls that oneness, God, or something else, it feels like I’m trying to sink more deeply into that and let that inform how I move.

And what it’s asking of me is different than how I’ve operated before. It’s asking me to be more consistent in my writing and sharing, but not from pressure. It’s also asking me to go deeper inside myself. To connect more with what I’d call the big Self, and to move from there. To let that be the place I’m creating from.

At the same time, I can feel that I’m in an identity shift. I’m moving out of a way of doing things that was more driven by anxiety, more driven by efforting in a way that feels smaller now. It worked, it got me here, but it’s not what’s going to build what I’m building next.

What’s coming in is something that feels like a larger container. There’s more space in it. A different relationship to my work. A different way of writing about it and organizing it so that all the parts of what I do can actually live together instead of feeling separate.

And I don’t fully understand it yet. It’s coming together in its own timing.

What I do know is that I’m outgrowing the old way. The way where anxiety is driving the action. Where reaching out comes from a smaller place. And there’s something from my earlier path, from my Siddha Yoga days, that feels like it’s returning, but in a new form, and supporting this next phase in a way that feels more whole.

There’s also grief here.

Grief of old identities that don’t work anymore, even though they got me here. And more directly, grief around my mom and my sister moving out of Denver. We’ve had this rhythm where we see each other multiple times a week. There’s been a real support system there, both ways.

And that’s changing.

So there’s a sadness in that. A real one. And I’m trying to actually feel it instead of skipping over it, so that I can move into this next version of my life with some level of completion and gratitude, instead of just pushing forward.

What’s interesting is I’m seeing a version of this in a lot of my clients right now too.

There’s a pattern where people can feel that their identity is shifting, but there’s fear in actually stepping into the new space because it requires letting go of the old one. Even when it’s clear the old way isn’t working anymore, there’s still hesitation around the uncertainty of what’s next.

And the process is slower than people want it to be.

So I’ve been working more somatically with that. Helping people actually feel what the new identity would be like, not just think about it. Because there’s an awkward space in between. There’s disorientation when you’re reorganizing into something new.

And I don’t think this is just individual. I think it’s happening at a larger level too. There’s a lot of change happening right now — technologically, culturally, even in terms of consciousness depending on how someone sees it. And with that, there’s going to be breakdowns of old systems, both externally and internally.

I’ve been noticing what looks like paralysis in some people, and I’ve felt versions of it myself.

But it doesn’t feel like simple stuckness.

It feels more like a kind of cocoon. A chrysalis. Where there’s a lot happening under the surface, and the system slows things down because it needs to reorganize. That can look like freeze, like depression, like not knowing what to do next.

And from the outside, life can look completely normal. People are going to work, handling responsibilities, doing what they need to do.

But internally there’s fear, or disconnection, or this question of what is all of this actually for.

That’s what’s shaping how I’m refining my work right now.

Sovereign Standard is really becoming about identity and identity shift. It’s bringing together belief work, perceptual work, somatic work, mindfulness — all of it — but organizing it around helping someone move into a more congruent identity based on their values.

Not just changing behaviors, but actually updating the underlying structure. Letting go of beliefs and stories that don’t fit anymore, and creating something that allows more flow.

And at the same time, helping people slow down enough to actually be grounded in themselves, so that all the changes happening around them don’t just pull them out of themselves.

The people I feel most aligned working with right now are high achievers — but not just in business. People who are already doing a lot in their lives, but something internally isn’t matching anymore. Entrepreneurs, yes, but also people who are really wanting to go deeper into themselves and can feel that something is shifting.

If someone reads this and it lands, it might look like feeling lost even though things look fine on paper. Or feeling like the identity you’ve built doesn’t match your life anymore. Or questioning what all of this is actually for.

And instead of trying to solve that immediately, what I’d offer is just starting with the question of what alignment would actually feel like.

If your life was congruent — if your relationships felt the way you want them to feel, if your work felt connected and meaningful — what would that actually look like day to day? What would it feel like in your body?

Not having to answer it perfectly, but starting to sense it.

Because that’s the direction I’m taking my work. Not fighting the movement of life, but learning how to actually move with it in a way that creates more alignment, more groundedness, and more growth.

And if you’re in that space — somewhere in between what was and what’s next — I’m opening up more conversations around this.

Not as a push, just as a place to explore what’s actually happening for you.

You can reach out if that feels right. Or just sit with it for a while and see where it takes you.